Older and Wiser

“Asian women, especially the eldest daughter, are self-indoctrinated into self-sacrifices." 

"Vertical hierarchy in East and South Asia results in a distinctly defined sibling structure."

“Selfish, as I am.

To be a child once again, 

To be the child after.” 

“I feel like an old woman from an early age. I have to find my way back to honoring that little girl who didn’t get to be a kid”

"My experiences as a firstborn aren't exclusive to Asian families by any means, but

it's a culture that values collectivism and filial piety."

“Love me as I love you.

“Taken separately, it’s not too bad to be the eldest, to be a daughter, or to be Asian. But if you combine the three, it is probably more of a curse than a blessing.”

“Occupying the unfortunate position of a firstborn thus comes with the expectation of being a role model.”

“Maybe being the eldest Asian daughter is a blessing – I definitely would not have turned out the way I did if I had an older sibling, or if I were a boy. But I would wager that I would be a bit more emotionally stable and a bit less insufferably try-hard had I not been the eldest Asian daughter.”

“I’m excited to be a year older”